Updated: May 29, 2021
These are the niggles that cause low self-confidence, dominate our life story and crop up in every direction. They're the anchors that we tirelessly carry around and that hold us back in life. These are the reason you feel stuck. They work deep in the Psyche and are the consequence of internalised experiences and events that have created fear and insecurity.
The biggest problem with limiting beliefs is that they're well hidden and we tend to attract experiences that reinforce them. Kind of like the "Self-Fulfilling Prophecy"
We often blame others, our circumstances, luck or relationships for the events in our lives. Whilst, yes, these things do contribute to the existence of Limiting Beliefs, it's important for us to take responsibility for our choices, thoughts and actions.
Being accountable for your Self, is essential to developing Self-Efficacy
We must recognise that we have Choice and Free-Will!
According to the Happiness Pie, only 10% of our Happiness is dependent on our circumstances and a whopping 40% of it all banks on the choices we make.
A Negative mind will never give you a Positive life!
So what is "Self-Talk"? Self-Talk is that little internal voice that you use to evaluate and process Life.
Its the dialogue you have with yourself in the shower, whilst you're driving & generally helps you to make pretty much, all of your decisions.
Considering that this "voice" will stay with you, your entire life, you can appreciate why it's important that we make sure that it's good company to be with.
Negative Self-Talk has limiting beliefs, which affect the way that we assess and respond to Life. Negative Self-Talk dictates to you what you "should" & "shouldn't" wear; what you "will" & "won't" achieve; and what you "can" & "can't" do.
Negative Self-Talk wants you to stay in the comfort zone, because it doesn't belief that you're capable of better.
When negative Self-Talk goes on for long periods of time, we create ingrained patterns of behaviour which are difficult to break.
Counselling helps break these cycles by teaching you how to turn that inner-voice into your very own Inner-Coach!